Monday, November 8, 2010

conflict and communication....

...the absence of conflict doesn't equal good communication...
In their book LOVE THAT LASTS, Gary and Betsy Rucucci share
ten tips for communication that can help you when you're expe-
riencing conflict in your relationship...

1. Learn to express your feelings and frustrations honestly, but
without accusing or attacking the othe person (Proverbs 11:9)

2. Choose words, expressions, and a tone of voice that are kind
and gentle. Don't use speech that could easily offend or spark
an argument. (Proverbs 15:1)

3. Dont' exaggerate, distort, or stretch the truth. Avoid extreme
words like never and always (Ephesians 4:25)

4. Give actual and specific examples. If necessary, make notes
before you communicate. Stay away from generalities.

5. Commit yourself to seeking solutions instead of airing your
grievances. Getting even isn't the goal - you want to get things
resolved. (Romans 12:17-21)

6. Listen to what the other person is saying, feeling and needing.
Try to detect his or her underlying concerns (James 1:19)

7.Refuse to indulge bitterness, anger, withdrawal, or argument.
Though these emotions are normal, indulging them is sin
(Ephesians 4:26)

8.Don't hesitate to acknowledge your own failure, and be quick
to forgive the other person. Make sure you don't hold a grudge.
(Luke17:3-4)

9. Keep talking and asking questions until you are sure that you
both understand clearly what the other is saying and feeling. En-
courage each other as you press toward a solution (Romans14:19)

10. Train your mouth and heart until you can say the right thing at
the right time in the right way for the right reasons!

Remember, conflict is not necessarily a bad thing. And don't be
surprised if you experience it. It's a sign that you're really getting
to know each other. Don't run from it; instead, ask for God's help
to humbly and lovingly resolve it..

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

thank you so much Russ...keep it up!

Anonymous said...

keep it up! russ the great!

Anonymous said...

keep it up! Russ the great!

russ said...

pleae a comment guyz or leave a message at the side on the shoutbox..thanks..

Anonymous said...

aaaaaaaw! heheh naa diay ka diha russ..:) keep it up lol!imo jud kung gapa antus ba hahaha! joke..

russ said...

hahaha... ako ng gi change ang setting sa akong comment page, wala nay moderation.. haha.. para di na kinahanglan ug approval..haha

Anonymous said...

Sounds good, I like to read your blog, just added to my favorites ;)