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Tuesday, November 23, 2010
advantages and disadvantages of flirting online..
Flirting is a big NO NO! for me.. it's like you're cheating when you're committed or you're committing adultery when you're married maybe my standard is just so high or maybe the other party can't keep up with me. But of course anybody can flirt with anybody too specially when they're just looking for someone to date. No questions raised and no argument to be laid on the table, but it's different when you're talking about online dating/flirting, based on experience, it's not a very cinematic experience and it's not good at all. So, I'm writing down the advantages and disadvantages on what I observe and what I also do in terms of using the Internet just to communicate with someone you can't touch or kiss or make love with.
There's no question that everyone on the site is looking to meet someone. So, there's none of the awkwardness and uncertainty you have in some social situations, where a person's relationship status or even sexual orientation may not be obvious.
* By reading people's profiles closely, you can quickly weed out people whose interests, age, values, religion or whatever else doesn’t appeal to you. Ditto when posting your own profile: Describing yourself honestly and being clear about your values and interests makes it more likely that someone compatible will write to you.
* Typically, a photo or even multiple photos will accompany a person's profile. The eyes truly are the windows of the soul, and being able to pair a face with the words in the profile definitely helps give you a clearer idea of the person you're writing to.
* The initial anonymity of the net empowers shy people to approach people and make moves that they never would in person.
* You can meet people you wouldn't otherwise meet because your social and/or business circles don't intersect, or because you don't frequent the same places.
* You can get hung up on Internet flirting: It's addictive and it's easy, and it's a short-term remedy for loneliness or boredom. But it's essentially blind: Our instincts about a person are based not just on what ideas they want to communicate, but on appearance, body language, facial expressions and tone of voice -- all subtleties that are lost when communicating via computer, no matter how many emoticons you use. Unless you get beyond the e-mail stage, the Internet will do you no good at all.
* Internet dating/flirting is limiting in the sense that you'll only be meeting folks who spend time on the Internet, which excludes a whole raft of people.